Recent world events are resulting in many survivors re-experiencing a time when safety, trust, and control were taken from them. Whether you are in need of assistance to help you cope with something that happened to you 4 hours ago or 4 decades ago, we are here.
It is time that men begin to embrace a healthier, more respectful manhood. We can promote a better society for all. We must to begin to view sexual and domestic violence as an issue we ALL need to care about. This is how we’re going to create lasting change.
Too often, men are told that we have to be in control, stoic, never cry, and never show weakness. Being vulnerable is one of the most liberating things men can do, and once we finally reveal what’s under our “masks” of manhood is when we can start to live authentically.
We need to be willing to discuss our wants and needs, and be willing to question potential unhealthy behaviors. By practicing an open dialogue with one another, we will create a collective mindset based on respect and open communication within our relationships; no matter who the relationship is with.
As important as consent is, we don’t talk about it enough. The term “consent” means the affirmative, unambiguous and voluntary agreement to engage in a specific activity which can be revoked at any time. Consent, while it may seem like a simple topic to some, is often missing from physical encounters.
It’s time we began having honest conversations with men about manhood as we take an in-depth look at what we value in men as a society. Collectively, we need to begin to value the things that truly matter rather than the unhealthy traits. So, let us ask ourselves and the ones around us: “What does manhood really mean?”
Anger is a common and very real emotion that every single human deals with. However; for survivors, this emotion can be overwhelming and confusing. There are ways to cope with anger that don’t involve risking harm to yourself or another person.
When we build our self-worth and become comfortable in who we are, we minimize the ability for our valued traits to become vulnerabilities. Remember, your voice matters, it is important, and you are resilient.
We are often asked, “What does an abusive person look like?” The truth is, there is no size-fits-all description of an abuser. However, warning signs of abuse, often called “red flags,” can signal to us that a partner may be trying to hold power or control over us.
Many survivors will tell you that getting out of an abusive situation is never as simple as “just leaving”. We must empower a person’s choice and not mandate specific paths of action, as the person in the relationship knows the safest way to navigate their situation.
Safety planning is crucial now more than ever, with many survivors of abuse unable to find a safe space where they can escape abuse during quarantine. A safety plan outlines ways to identify if you’re in a dangerous relationship, tips on staying safe, and preparing to leave an abusive relationship.
Children see, hear, perceive and understand far more than we realize. By understanding the impact that domestic violence has on children and knowing the signs, we can help counteract some of the negative impacts witnessing abuse can have.
Verbal abuse is a way for perpetrators of violence to gain power and control over their partner by persuading them to believe something that is untrue and harmful. Almost all individuals who have experienced physical assault report having experienced verbal abuse as well.
Domestic Violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one person to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Our Case Management Team takes a deeper look at tactics abusers use to gain control over their partners.
At Resilience, we embrace vulnerability, acknowledge our imperfections, and rely on our colleague’s strengths to provide quality, expert service to our community.